Have you ever wondered why it is sometimes difficult to get all of your needs met in a relationship? Perhaps you meet someone, and while you may have an emotional connection, maybe you aren’t sexually attracted. Perhaps you are sexually attracted to someone, but in your eyes, they definitely are definitely not marriage material. Astrology offers insight into the complexities of love, sex, and marriage. By studying specific planets and asteroid placements, we learn more about the who, what, and why associated with love, sexual attraction, and marriage.
It is for this reason that sometimes the people we are romantically attracted to may not necessarily be the people who we are sexually attracted or the people we would consider marriage material. In astrology, Venus rules what we are initially attracted to in partners on a superficial level. Mars represents our sex drive and what we desire sexually. Juno, the asteroid, rules what is considered the ideal marriage partner.
Now, if Venus, Mars, and Juno are all compatible by zodiac signs, then it is likely that we will have partners that are a representation of what we would ultimately want in a partner. However, if these three major planetary placements are in signs that are very different from one another, then it’s clear to see how this could cause some incongruencies between the type of people we love, the type of people we want to be sexually active with, and the type of people we want to settle down with in marriage and/or a long term relationship.
The following is an overview of the Venus, Mars, and Juno placements and how they influence our perspectives on love, sex, and marriage.
Expressing Love Through Venus
In astrology, Venus rules love, relationships, and finances. It also rules our sense of personal style and fashion leanings. When it comes to love, Venus is the initial layer of what we would consider partner material. For example, someone with Venus in Aries is likely to be very direct and bold when it comes to their romantic endeavors. Someone with Venus in Cancer is likely to be very nurturing with their lovers. It is important to note that when considering planetary interpretations, aspects also matter.
Nevertheless, the Venus sign gives an idea of the type of partner we are likely to want on a superficial level. It is what initially attracts us to someone. For example, Venus in Aquarius tends to prefer romantic partners that are different from the rest. Venus in Capricorn is likely to prefer partners who are mature and responsible and perhaps even a bit older. Once we know exactly what it is that we initially like, then be able to gauge whether potential partners are long-term relationship material.
The only issue is that since Venus rules the superficial part of love, it may not necessarily equate to long-term marriage material which is represented by Juno. It is for this reason that sometimes when we are attracted to someone based on our Venus sign they may not be long-term relationship or marriage material due to a difference in our Venus and Juno signs.
Your Sexual Style & Preferences Via Mars
Now, sexuality is a whole different ball game. While Venus may show us who we are romantically attracted to, the Mars sign shows us what we want sexually. It is quite possible to be attracted to someone on a romantic level but not necessarily physically or sexually. This is especially the case when Venus and if you have a Venus in Cancer which makes you initially attracted to the more nurturing, emotionally expressive partner. However, if your Mars is in Aries, it is likely that you would want a partner who was a bit more forward, and direct and leans more into their masculine energy.
If, however, the partner with Venus in Cancer has a Mars sign that is compatible with your Mars in Aries, then this could definitely work. For example, let’s say your Venus in Cancer lover has a Mars in Leo, then you would definitely be able to get that fiery edge you desire sexually to feel fulfilled. However, let’s say your Venus in Cancer partner has a Mars in Pisces. While Mars in Pisces may be sensitive, empathetic, and compassionate, they may not have the “oomph” and fiery passion that your Mars in Aries desires on a sexual level.
If you are only interested in a sexual and/or physical relationship, definitely check out the Mars sign of your potential interest to see if there is sexual compatibility.
The Ideal Spouse Courtesy of Juno
While many people believe that Venus is where you go for marriage, this is not the case in astrology. Juno is the asteroid that rules marriage and long-term committed relationships. It is this sign that shows you what you really want in a spouse. For example, if you have Juno in Capricorn, you are likely to prefer partners who are hard-working, practical, in control of their lives, and accountable and responsible. If you have Juno in Libra, you really want a partner that is all about being in a relationship and doing what it takes to compromise and bring balance and harmony to a relationship to make it work.
One of the biggest discrepancies is when the Venus sign clashes with the Juno sign. This results in us initially attracting someone based on the superficial qualities that we do genuinely like. However, when it comes to partnerships for the long haul, those Venus qualities just don’t stand up to what we desire from a partner based on the Juno sign. For example, let’s say you have Venus in Sagittarius. Initially, you are attracted to a partner that is adventurous, always exploring and traveling, and forever optimistic.
As the relationship gets serious, your Juno in Taurus kicks in. Juno in Taurus is seeking a long-term partner that wants to settle down in one place, build a strong foundation, desires stability, and be resistant to change. You can see how the initial Venus in Sagittarius attraction clashes with the long-term romantic ideals of Juno in Taurus.
Ultimately, when you are looking to settle down for the long term, it is important to consider whether the person that you were initially attracted to at the Venus level is someone that embodies the energies of your Juno sign.
When Venus, Mars, & Juno Are in Sync
One of the best astrological compatibilities is when the major relationship and attraction planets are in sync as this offers likeness across love, sexual attraction, and marriage ideals. For example, let’s say you have someone with Venus in Cancer, Mars in Scorpio, and Juno in Pisces. This person’s ideal partner is likely to be someone that embodies the water sign characteristics. Even if we were to switch things up and throw in some earth energy for grounding, that would work as well because planetary energies interact harmoniously to determine what a person ultimately wants in a partner across different areas.
When Venus, Mars, & Juno Are Not A Match
Now, the headache comes when the Venus, Mars, and Juno signs don’t match. This creates a situation where what we are initially attracted to according to the Venus sign is not what we are sexually attracted to, and may not be what we are seeking in a long-term partner. This is why some people can be romantically attracted to someone while not being sexually attracted to them.
This is also the reason why someone can have a sexual relationship with a person but doesn’t view them as marriage material. Just because you like a set of traits romantically doesn’t mean you want those same characteristics sexually or for long-term relationships. It is important to genuinely consider partner preferences according to the Venus, Mars, and Juno signs for an honest interpretation of what is desired in love, sex, and marriage.
Ultimately, getting what you desire in love, sex, and marriage may require compromise. While we may dream of the perfect partner that fulfills all of our wants and needs, the truth of the matter is that no one is perfect. In the end, we are all fortunate to partner with those who love us dearly and allow us to return the favor in full.
