There are some people who just want to make everyone else happy. These types of people are what we call people pleasers. You know the type. The ones who bend over backward to make sure everyone is happy.
The ones who don’t want to have any conflict or upsets because they just want peace, love, and harmony. While making others happy is quite laudable, people-pleasing can result in dissatisfaction for those who are always adjusting themselves for the comfort of others. Astrology can help identify the signs that are most likely to bend over backward to make sure others are happy.
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As an air sign, Libra’s desire for relating makes them very aware of the art of socialization. They refrain from harsh, brash language that could be offensive to others. They avoid topics that could shake up harmonious, peaceful interactions. Libra wants to keep the vibe nice and light. Because of this, Libra is often perceived as being quite accommodating to others.
While all of the peace, love, and harmony are quite lovely, Libra has a tendency to compromise in a manner that can lead to unbalanced scales. When this happens, Libra, in an effort to cover up its unpleasant feelings, resorts to passive-aggressive tactics to express its contempt. Some examples of this behavior include backhanded compliments and harboring resentment while feigning pleasantness.
One of Libra’s lessons is to learn how to balance the position of harmony and peace for the self and others with being authentic. Compromise is lovely but not when it is at the expense of Libra’s truth and personal happiness.
Taurus is the second Venus-ruled sign in the zodiac that also has a tendency to please people. Despite Taurus’ stereotype of being single-minded and stubborn, they are truly oriented towards stability and security. They don’t do well with anything that will shake up the foundations that they’ve worked so hard to build.
When Taurus has reached a point where they have achieved the foundational security desired, they want everything to stay as it is. Sameness is important to Taurus’ sense of well-being. A solid home life with a long-term partner, established friend group, and all the creature comforts allow Taurus to enjoy their five senses to the fullest.
It’s hard to kick back and enjoy a sensual life when you are worried about meeting basic needs. This is one of the reasons why Taurus seeks to build a solid foundation so that they and those closest to them are able to enjoy both the simple and the finer things in life.
This orientation towards enjoying the simple pleasures of life is quite lovely until Taurus encounters situations that threaten their sense of security. Because Taurus is resistant to change, they have the tendency to sweep issues under the rug in order to maintain the solid foundations built. This leads to Taurus tolerating circumstances that are often less than ideal in order to maintain its sense of stability and familiarity.
While Taurus is slow to anger, prolonged periods of repressed anger and discontentment could eventually lead to unpleasant angry outbursts. It is important for Taurus to be honest about what does not feel good to them in order to prevent over-toleration of the unpleasant in an effort to maintain stability and security.
The moon-ruled Cancer is also a people pleaser. Cancer is the nurturing mother of the zodiac, so they are always pouring into others. This is the zodiac sign that is always there to help someone offering a shoulder to cry on with a hearty meal and a warm hug. Cancer gets their emotional security from being needed by others. Some would say that this makes Cancer quite needy…especially when others are not able to reciprocate in the same manner. Due to Cancer’s desire to take care of everyone, this can lead to being a people pleaser.
There are circumstances where Cancer may have heavy family karmic energy which requires them to give a lot to their families even if it is a burden to them. This can lead to feelings of resentment that can show up as emotional manipulation for the Cancerian. Some expressions of this emotional manipulation include the infamous Cancer guilt trip where loved ones are reminded of how much Cancer has done for them.
Cancer can learn much from balancing nurturing and caring for others with self-care. While Cancer seeks emotional security through its closest relationships, it is important for Cancer to develop emotional self-sufficiency. There will be times when others may not be able to reciprocate Cancer’s emotional availability. For this reason, it is vital that Cancer makes the effort to pour into themselves to prevent the emotional dissatisfaction that leads to using emotionally manipulative tactics in order to form, secure, and maintain emotional bonds.
Last but not least, Pisces makes the list of zodiac people pleasers. Ruled by Neptune, Pisces is a mutable, empathetic, compassionate sign. These qualities make them open to helping others to the point of sacrificing themselves so that others can be happy. This is definitely people-pleasing energy where Pisces often ignores red flags about people all because they want to save others and help the perceived underdog. This often leads to Pisces being taken advantage of oftentimes by the very people they helped. Quite sad.
For Pisces, this desire to give out compassion and unconditional love puts them in a vulnerable position. Unfortunately, there are lots of people who are more than willing to take from Pisces with no intention of reciprocating. This leads to Pisces giving much but receiving very little in return. In an effort to give out unconditional love, Pisces will continue to pour into people who honestly are necessarily the most deserving.
Pisces has a very important lesson in creating boundaries and using their intuition to discern who is truly deserving of their unconditional love and attention. Since it is innate to Pisces to care for others unconditionally, Pisces must learn how to filter out those who are not deserving.
It is important for Pisces to be diligent in noticing and acknowledging the red flags associated with people. By doing so, Pisces is in a better position to eliminate those individuals through their intuitive awareness who are not deserving of their unconditional love, compassion, and empathy.
Although it may be difficult, Pisces can benefit from forming boundaries. Innately, Pisces is not good with boundaries as its planetary ruler, Neptune, dissolves boundaries in order to connect with others. This lack of boundaries is what makes Pisces such an empathetic soul. However, developing and affirming boundaries will allow Pisces to keep out individuals who are undeserving.
Pisces are encouraged to give themselves the empathy and compassion that they so willingly give to others. By investing in self while also establishing boundaries and being guided by intuition, Pisces can move beyond people pleasing into embodying unconditional love for the self and for those who are truly deserving.
While being a people pleaser may make people feel as if they are valued and wanted, it can also lead to feelings of inadequacy, resentment, sadness, and mental, emotional, and spiritual depletion when the energy given is not reciprocated.
People-pleasers can learn a lot from acknowledging that balance is important in all relationships. Even the balance-oriented Libra experiences dissatisfaction when they only operate from the place of being a people pleaser. Anything one-sided is likely to lead to discontent and a lack of fulfillment.
The people pleasers of the zodiac are encouraged to embrace the Venusian pleasantness of Libra and Taurus, the Cancerian desire to nurture, and the Piscean need to give compassion and unconditional love while creating the boundaries and self-love that limit people-pleasing behaviors.