Anger Around the Zodiac: How to Deal With Signs When Upset

Aries: The Aries in your world will blow up quick, but they usually burn out quickly, too. This sign has a strong bent toward fairness, and if they feel they’re being abused, be prepared for fireworks. Additionally, while it’s hard to cause irreparable damage in a relationship with an Aries (because they’ll let you know long before they reach a point of no return), you’ll need to be prepared to disregard what’s said in anger. If you tend to nurse hurts, a friendship or relationship with an Aries can be tough.

Leo: When a Leo gets mad, they take center stage. They love the attention that gets created when the fireworks start. Never tell a Leo to calm down, because they simply can’t. However, you can get in the face of a Leo when they’re popping off, they may back down. They will aim to wound with the things they say, and you shouldn’t be surprised if old arguments and hurts see the light of day when a Leo loses it. Be fair, be honest, avoid being abusive, and be ready to walk away. If you take away their audience, a Leo just might be willing to listen.

Sagittarius: A Sagittarius in a temper can get really mean. While they’re not generally moody, when the darkness descends, everything is wrong and there’s no fixing it. It can get a little scary when the normally composed Sagittarius loses it; think Bridezilla-type behavior. You don’t want to be the person to ask a question or present a problem when the Sagittarius is ready to snap. When they calm down, they will turn themselves inside out to provide you with a heartfelt apology. Because this sign can get really sarcastic when they get mad, either know when to walk away or develop a thick skin.

Earth Signs

Taurus: If you’re a hot-tempered person, life with a Taurus can be tough. This sign doesn’t like to say much when they’re upset, so they need time to express their feelings and hurts. Loyalty and betrayal are huge triggers for the Taurus. If they close down and won’t talk to you, either you or someone else has upset them. The Taurus is stubborn in anger and can hold a grudge. When they finally do open up, be prepared to hear everything that’s wrong and do your best to make amends and change your behavior. If not, the clammed-up Taurus may turn into the missing Taurus.

Virgo: Sadly, the patient Virgo can become a magnet for others that are angry. This counselor-like tolerance for the anger of others makes it easier for the Virgo to ignore their own emotions, even when they’re valid. If you hurt a Virgo, they’re likely to forgive eventually, but forgetting will be hard for them. This sign will shut down and break connection before they will speak up and let you know what’s upset them. If a Virgo gets quiet, be ready to ask the source of their upset.

Capricorn: Capricorns have a very strong sense of what’s right and wrong. If you mess up and upset them, it may take time for them to speak up. However, they don’t generally clam up and say nothing. In fact, once the Capricorn has had enough, you will know exactly what they’re upset about. Be aware that Capricorn won’t snap and say things they don’t mean. If a Capricorn feels the need to tell you off, be ready to listen. They mean what they say.

Air Signs

Gemini: The free-wheeling Gemini in your sphere has a great zest for life. Anger is often seen as a waste of energy, so as long as you don’t try to control them, you’re probably good. Love with a Gemini can be fun, exciting and endlessly interesting. If you do tick them off, they’ll tell you. And then they’ll tell you again. Listen, apologize or mention that you already have, and try to do better.

Libra: Libras like peace and calm. Ticking off a Libra actually takes some effort. If they get quiet, you may have to dig through recent interactions to determine what you said or did to upset them. Something has to be in serious retrograde for a Libra to blow their stack. Libras are generous with second chances, but they struggle to forget past hurts. Don’t be surprised if an unhappy Libra holds a grudge.

Aquarius: If an Aquarius feels the need to tell you off, you’re a true friend. This sign loves a good debate, but they generally don’t like to argue. If you do something that angers them, they may actually write off the relationship instead of letting you know. It may take time for them to respond to whatever caused their upset, so give them time. When they do speak, listen.

Water Signs

Cancer: The compassionate Cancer is one of the few signs you’ll have to chase to get them to share their anger. This sign can be so giving as to turn into a doormat. When they’ve had enough, they clam up. If a Cancer gets quiet while nursing a hurt, check your horoscope for patience and be ready to sit with this sign until they share what they’re upset about.

Scorpio: Scorpios get quiet and cold when they’re angry. If they do talk, this sign can get sarcastic and insulting when they’ve had enough. If they’re extremely quiet, they are either planning to leave the space / relationship, or they may be planning your funeral. If and when an angry Scorpio finally chooses to cut loose and tell you what’s wrong, understand that they may be saying good-bye.

Pisces: Pisces tend to feel deeply but say little. When the moon is full, and angry Pisces may choose to have a shrieking, bawling fit. Understand that this release is necessary and hide breakable and sharp things. Let them calm down and be prepared for a deep dialogue on what has caused their upset.